update to the last thread which got closed, i think i found it. i kept the same account and did this: removed all the mods from the mods folder and tried to run, same freeze. i tried removing all the bepinex mods too then executed and it loaded this time. i tried adding mods from bepinex first a few at a time and at the point i got to the custom music mod it got frozen when i started spt. i removed all the bepinex mods again and only added the custom music mod in bepinex, then it froze so i assume this is the erroneous mod. not to mention the "not compatible" mods you guys pointed out were actually compatible i just asked the authors not long ago. also i had no bepinex mods in the mods folder, if i did, i fixed that and it still kept freezing.
CONCLUSION: the samswat custom music mod seems to be the one causing the freezes, its a bepinxed mod.