Ok so I played around a bit more and can rule out More Checkmarks. Went down a rabbit hole on google that told me all my hardware was toast, a bit like when you get a slight illness and you look up symptoms and it tells you you're dying...
Anyway, one suggestion for this error is to underclock your RAM, I have DDR5 5200 ram 64gb, i9 13900KF and a 4080 Suprim X so it's pretty beefy. Underclocked my RAM to 5000mhz in Bios and had 4 raids back to back no issue. I'll report back if it turns out I crash again. I also swapped my DIMMs around in the same slots so it could be that too.
Hopefully this will have some relevance to your issues.
Thanks I started leaning towards hardware myself. I'm still on ddr4 3000mghz 32gig so and they are old so I could just have some dying ram. gonna try re slotting them and see if that does anything.